GENERATIONAL GAP: Dealing With the Stiff Upper Lip Generation

 

The world was a very different place than it was just a few short decades ago. As a millennium drew to a close, there were more people on the planet than ever before. In addition, resources like the Internet, social media, and other modern technology at our disposal has become a way of life for most of us. It is easy to forget that those just a generation or two away lived on a less populated planet that was completely devoid of cell phones and social media.  The oldest among us are still often uncomfortable with this new way of life. So how do you relate to them? How do you invite them into your world, or offer a new perspective of the world?

Technology

Coming to grips with digital technology is something many older people find nearly impossible to do. It confounds and overwhelms them. Having sprung up only in the last couple of decades, the devices and machines which fall into this category don’t seem necessary to someone who lived most of their lives without them. They see no need to learn how to use them. If you’re able to peak their interest the most valuable knowledge you can impart is their usability. While it is second nature to many of us to navigate complex software systems, our elderly relatives haven’t had our experience and exposure. When purchasing or teaching them how to use a device, search for one that makes the individual’s life easier. Simple and easy are the best parameters to follow.  

Support & Care

The oldest among us have lived through very challenging times. The Great Depression and  the World Wars had a profound effect on them as young people. They learned to survive by gutting it out and adapting. There was no complaining in their world! As a result they are quite literally battle-hardened and independent. This makes them difficult to help, even if it is essential to their well-being.  In an effort to help them it’s easy for someone who hasn’t walked in their shoes to puss to hard. In some cases, the rift may require the expertise of a elder care attorney to put things right.  Seeing things from their perspective and avoiding taking resistance as a personal rejection makes for a smoother path.  

Decisions

Finally, it’s time to think about something that is very frustrating and hurtful as we get older, and that is what happens when our ability to hear decreases.  The hard of hearing are often left out of discussions, debates, and, worst of all, the decisions being made regarding their care.  This is unfair. Making decisions may also become more difficult, but that does not mean people in this situation don’t want to have some control over their lives. Too often they begin to feel bitter and resentful as they fell as though they are losing control or are being pushed around. To solve this issue, take the time necessary to include elderly family members in both conversation and decisions whenever possible. It’s the perfect opportunity to fine tune the skill of patience.

Addressing the needs of relatives and friends from different generations takes effort and attention. The era in which we were born influences how we behave. It’s no secret that each generation has its own favorite style of music. They also have unique characteristics that are, in a similar way, hard to understand. Yet, it is not impossible. Ask them questions about their youth and what it was like growing up in a world without computers. As you get to know them better in this way, it will improve your understanding as to why they are the way they are. Think less about fitting them into your world and a little bit more about fitting into their world. Before you know it you’ll be a pro at navigating the generational gap.